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The Power of Perception

Hi readers!,

I have finally discovered my niche (what inspires me most to write about) and so I have created a new blog to express it all via. If you are at all interested in spirituality, self-empowerment, self-discovery, healing yourself, living a life of peace, challenging yourself or living your dream please check it out!

Here is a taste of what I have to say:

Ever wondered what it would look like living your dream? Healing yourself from your illnesses and diseases? Throwing away your rose-coloured glasses and seeing the world through clear lenses?

“Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.”
― Wayne W. Dyer

The only thing you have complete control over is your own choices. Once we stop trying to fix the things around us and we start making choices for ourselves that are self-honouring, self-loving, it is amazing and so powerful what we can do and achieve. The Ego says ‘I will be at peace when everything falls into place’ but the Spirit says “everything will fall into place when I am at peace”.

Albert Einstein said that the most important decision we would make is whether we live in a supportive world or a hostile world because you will continually look for evidence to support your hypothesis. You either focus on love or on fear. Bruce Lipton says that it is this perception, this decision, that determines whether we will grow and change, or protect yourself and degrade.

“We can control our lives by controlling our perceptions.”
― Bruce H. Lipton

My name is Emily and my vision is to spread this knowledge and empower people to live the life they desire. I have spent the majority of my life as a people pleaser. Once I became aware of this, of what I was creating and what I truly desired, I realised how I had been merely functioning as a robot. My actions and choices had been programmed into my subconscious mind by the limiting beliefs and perceptions of my parents, my teachers, my doctors, my friends, the media, and the government. This had been happening from the moment I was born, I was completely unaware that my life was a regurgitation of these habits. I was on the road to not living a life of 70 years or 80 years, a life living the same year 70 times. Over and over.

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Dear God

I am grateful for..

The basic gifts that my parents have given me; food, water, shelter, and love

The colour that my brothers bring to my life. How I can laugh, play, and dance worrylessly and in total joy with them. How they love me and take care of me and how I can be their friend.

My Job; to have an income no matter how small

My country; the clear and relatively unpolluted air. No major natural disasters, war or legal guns, however imperfect we are as a nation.

Support in my spiritual life – or else I would give up on being me and my life would be normal.

My gifts.

My material possessions, however unnecessary.

Healthy food and lifestyle options

A good education.

Friends who care about me and enjoy sharing with me. Who I can counsel, encourage, teach, and inspire. Who I share an understanding with.

Michael, however absurd our situation, for his love, joy and peace. For his understanding and generosity and encouragement.

James, for his fearless take on life, his inspiration and support and understanding.

Laura, for showing me what it’s like to have a sister.

My visions and inspirations for the future.


And most of all, God. With all his grace, love and peace. His loving hand, his wise words, his great plan. His creation and everything else that is beyond my comprehension. For giving me life, for giving me reason to be grateful. Thank you Lord, I love you. I am truly blessed

Please Pray for Me

IMG_6157After spending the last year fumbling around with my life and not moving forward, I have finally achieved some sort of direction for the new year. Nonetheless, I have learnt many valuable things on my journey this year; about myself, and the world we live in, the lives we live. I have made some profound self-discoveries and personal developments equipping me to live a fulfilled life. I have no doubt that this will continue through my many years to come.

Even though I have not achieved anything in the material sense this year – the lessons that I have learnt, the things that I have been awakened to, the experiences I have had, the people I have met, and the moments I have shared, have been invaluable.

The biggest lesson I have learnt is to always stay true to yourself. Trust in your intuition and you will have a fulfilling life. This has got me so many times because my head is telling me that logically, I am crazy when I want to follow my heart. I had to learn how to let go and let God.

I have a lot of people looking at my decision-making and wondering why I would choose the path I choose. If it is not for you – good – that’s because the path is true for me and now you. If you find yourself wanting to be on the same path – what are you waiting for? Why stay where you are when you could be out there following your dreams?

This is what all of the movies teach us. There is no time like the present. Go out and follow your dreams. Or even things like – don’t let your love of your life go just because life is getting in the way. Love is greater than that. We get all hyped up on this message but it is short-lived.

Why do so few people follow their dreams? Because they are imprisoned by fear. If we come to the realisation that we have nothing to fear in life – that we are only spiritual beings here for a human experience – that is when we are free. What kind of experience is it when we do what others expect of us? If we constantly struggle to be our true selves and go on an adventure. Whatever it may be that resonates with you. Do not fear – it is your worse enemy.

A person will only change when they recognise that the pain and discomfort of change is less than the pain and discomfort of their current situation.

My biggest struggle this year has been between my head and my heart. My head has been conditioned with a whole rainbow of perceptions, beliefs, and judgements. I found that if I unlearn these, I will find the truth within me. I have just been blinded from it. This is such a beautiful thing to discover.

My heart is aligned with the truth. It cannot be wavered by other’s advice and opinions and expectations of how I should govern myself. Not even my own. It knows exactly where I am going, exactly how to follow my dreams. All I need to trust in it and enjoy the journey. It has taken me almost a whole year for this lesson to manifest deep within me and now I am finally putting it into practice.

I have had older persons give me advice based on their experience and expect me to take it all and follow it. I have told them that there are some things that I need to learn the hard way. What is life without challenges? So far I have gone through seemingly unscathed. For me, there is a line to be drawn where I do things perfectly for the first time. Too many times I learnt from other’s mistakes. How am I supposed to grow if I do not make my own? I find it hard to get across to people that my life is about my human experience, not theirs.

The more I am true to myself – the closer I come to the spirit and the more I know that what I am doing is the right thing to do. Not based on tangible things or justifiable reasons. These things do not need to be proven by sight, hearing, feeling, taste, and touch. I do not need to map out a logical argument to know that it is the path that I should take. I know that if it is aligned with my heart – I do not need to justify my choices. They are mine and they make sense to me.

Please pray for me.

Be the awareness…

“Be aware of the thoughts you are thinking. Separate them from the situation, which is always neutral, which always is as it is. There is the situation or the face, and here are my thoughts about it. Instead of making up stories, tay with the facts. For example, “I am ruined” is a story. It limits you and prevents you from taking effective action. “I have fifty cents left in my bank account” is a fact. Facing facts is always empowering. Be aware that what you think, to a large extent, creates the emotions you feel. See the link between your thinking and your emotions. Rather than being your thoughts and emotions, be the awareness behind them” – Eckhart Tolle

Be true to yourself

“Above all, be true to yourself, and if you cannot put your heart in it, take yourself out of it.” – Hardy D. Jackson

I had a dilemma in my life recently where I had to choose between this: be true to myself and let go of a massive opportunity, or keep on soldiering on and let others down.

I had been offered to take a group fitness class once a week at the place that I had completed work experience at. At first I felt honoured. I was focused upon the benefits of this opportunity – the experience I would gain, the extra money I could save up. I never once asked myself “am I compatible for this?”

So as time went on, I attended a class a week to shadow my trainer and learn through observation. This was all good and dandy while I was watching from the side-lines. However, I found that when I was asked to help him out in a more involved way, it no longer looked nice and dandy. I am not a shy person, I love meeting new people. It has become one of my many hobbies. However, I do not possess the persona required for the task I was being asked to complete. And yes, experience and hard work can help to get me there, but was this honouring myself?

There was one day when I knew that I had to attend the session – and take the warm-up. I wasn’t dreading it as such, however I wasn’t physically able to move. I recognised that I must have known deep down inside of me that this is not the path that I wanted to take. I called up my trainer, informing him that I was ill and unable to attend. What he said to me in reply surprised me: “If you are not committed to this, you will have to let me know soon so that I can get someone else to replace you”. Wow – I was not aware that others could see it in me too.

I thought over it for a while, never quite reaching a decision as I was torn between the two options. I prayed over it, and talked to friends about it, desperately hoping that someone would give me the answer as I was too indecisive to make it myself.

One night, after I had sent up my prayer, I got a phone call from my mum. She told me of an inspirational speaker who was speaking at a church service at St Michael’s, a church I have never visited. This church is situated in the CBD and I was hesitant to attend the service as it takes a while to travel into the city from my house. However, something was pulling me towards it and so the next day, I found myself sitting on the train on my way to St Michael’s.

When I listened to the speaker – I was amazed. The topic of her speech was ‘Do you know who you are?’ and was based a lot around our life’s purpose. She accentuated how to be capable of finishing a task, we have to be equipped for it. We have to possess all of the qualities and skills that it takes to finish the task. Sounds simple right? She gave examples of people who became physically ill when they were ill-equipped to finish a task, or it was simple not true for them.

I remember thinking to myself – is this my prayer being answered right in front of me? Is this God looking down upon me and saying “Em, this task you have given yourself is not your true path”?

I was still not convinced. I was aware of the wisdom that this particular speaker had shared with me as I sat in that church. However; I needed more than this. So I called upon a friend of mine.

This friend that I speak of has only known me for a month or so. Even so, I feel as if he has known me forever. He seems to know me deep down into my soul. He picks up things in me before I recognise them myself. A true gift if you ask me.

This is what my friend said to me after I explained my situation to him

“It’s obvious to me mind you that your heart isn’t truly in it. Honestly, if you keep prolonging the situation at hand you will keep letting yourself down. And that’s ok, look at it like this, if you dismiss yourself from it then you are genuinely helping someone else out who really wants the door of opportunity to open in this area of their life. You will be helping them with out them even knowing it.”
Ok, I said to myself. Now God has answered my prayer. All I need to do now is end this thing once and for all!


‘Normal’ is such a controversial phrase. In psychology, we spent a whole essay exploring it; what was considered normal behaviour? We did this so that by default, we would be defining abnormality. At the end of the essay, however, we had come to no conclusions.

There are so many different theories and perspectives that look into normality. One that I noticed in my textbook was “abnormality is sometimes defined as the subjective experience of feeling ‘not normal’ – for example, feeling intense anxiety, unhappiness, or distress”. Then I ask you psychologists – how are we normal if we do not experience these feelings?

If we didn’t have problems to overcome or emotions to experience – we wouldn’t be normal. We wouldn’t have the amazing opportunity to grow and learn. We wouldn’t be human – and isn’t being human normal?

I read once (I have no idea where and I can’t remember the exact details) that to be normal you have to be a 30-something-year-old man with a particular economical status and a certain lifestyle. The article admitted that the percentage of people who fit into this category is significantly low.

I could go on forever talking about the different proposed ways to define what normality is. However, I would like to ask – Is it necessary to define this term?

If I have learned one thing studying psychology – it’s that humans are structured beings. There’s reasons for this, such as structure makes it easier for our brains to cope. Especially with the copious amounts of information circulating the world today. I acknowledge this. We are only human after all. But I don’t remember learning about a discussion over the definitions of words back when we were primates. If we survived back then without it – why can’t we survive without it now?

One of the biggest fears of humans is not fitting in. We focus a lot on what’s normal in relation to our social environment. A lot of our time and effort is spent thinking about what others think of us. If we govern ourselves based around what others think we should be, then whose life are we living? Whose reality are we in? Ours? Or theirs?

I’m going to point out something here – and we all know this – EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT.

We were all born with unique traits and personalities – and this is what makes us beautiful.

So who cares about what’s considered normal?

I get that there are examples where people have done horrible things (rape, murder, torture, genocide etc.) because they have distanced themselves from the norm. And maybe you have a point (although they have also distanced themselves from their humane nature – which is probably abnormal).

But what would the world look like with no personality?

I know I wouldn’t want to live here.

From whence I have come

There’s a hazy screen in front of me, standing like a wall. The wall is never ending – I cannot see the top, I cannot see the bottom.

I try to push through, but It won’t let my body through. Only my arms.

Hoping to grab onto something, my hands are flinging desperately. But all that I can seize are cold, stone-shaped objects. They feel like lubricated condoms and instantly fall out of my grip.

The cloud disorientates me and I lose all idea of time and space. I have no recollection of where up or down is. My left and right merge into the same concept. I’m not even sure that I have a body anymore. At least, not a perceivable one.

My senses are replaced with the feeling of confusion. My head stretches until it becomes everything I am and know. I have embodied the universe, and beyond.

All that exists is the cloud of emotions and thoughts inside of me


And I speak for everyone.

For everyone is vulnerable.

How can I expect

the next person to know

when he is as human as me.

How can I believe

when my words are as valid, as knowledgeable, as true.

But if we don’t make these choices.

We are constantly

stuck in a world of unknowns.

With nothing but confusion.

So where will I draw the line?

Between the uncertainty

And the ‘certain’?

I guess,

either way,

it will have to be drawn.

The Future

Is it mature to have your whole life planned out in your head or naive?

On the one hand, society regards this as mature because it shows that we can think and plan the future. Setting goals or ambitions that we can work towards and having an idea of where we are heading is a concept often associated with adults. And adults ARE mature, right?

Yet, is it naive to believe that these plans will actually be carried out? That these expectations will be met?

Setting expectations can lead to setting limitations on yourself. A mental boundary of what you can achieve or which direction you wish to head in. By having a plan in mind, we can block ourselves from other opportunities and possibilities that come up.

This may not necessarily be a bad thing. Some people are happy with the direction they are going in. For some, it may work to have a goal in mind that they want to put everything towards.

But does it hurt to be open and accepting to other possibilities? Even if, at the time, you choose not to take them because it doesn’t feel light. But purely being accepting of the fact that the possibilities are there and that that direction is open to you, should you chose it.

Imagine how much more you could have had in your life, had you just opened your mind to these possibilities?

I remember reading somewhere once (and this is probably quite well-known) that Happiness=Reality-Expectations. What expectations do you have of your life that are limiting you?

Please share your thoughts on this, I would appreciate some other perspectives 🙂